How The Beatles Helped Me Find What’s Important In Life

So there was this band called The Beatles.

They were incredible.

They had an album called Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band.

There’s a song on that album called Fixing a Hole.

Last week I watched a documentary about the making of the album.

When they got to the song Fixing a Hole a lyric jumped out at me.

It’s a line I’ve heard 500 times but never thought much of.

I’m taking the time for a number of things
That weren’t important yesterday

Mind. Blown.

It really got me thinking.

There are so many things that are important to me today that weren’t important to me yesterday.

And I’m taking the time to pay more attention to these things.

I’m not getting younger. My health will be an uphill battle from here on out. I don’t have any issues really, I’m just not 20 anymore, I have to actually put in effort just to “maintain”. I can’t completely ignore my health and feel fine anymore. You know what I mean. Maybe.

I’ve got TWO little girls now. This fact alone adds a million things to my life that weren’t important yesterday.

We do things like pay taxes and get in bed at 9. Both of which used to be on the bottom of my list and now they are at the very top! haha!

I’ve got grown up shit to deal with now. The old days are gone forever. I miss my carefree teens and twenties. And my 30’s are mostly behind me now too. I’m not saying I don’t like my life now. I love it. It’s possible to both miss who you used to be and love who you are now. It’s possible to miss your younger days and be thankful they are behind you at the same time. That’s where I’m at.

Glad it happened, glad it’s over. Now what?

I guess it’s my two girls that have me thinking about what’s important today more and more.

It’s not just me anymore.

It’s not just me and Carrie anymore.

I wouldn’t want it any other way.

It’s been my experience that I’m always a little behind my own life.

Let me try to explain that…

It blows my mind that The Original Baby Beebs is already 3 years old and Baby Beebs Number Two is 3 months old.

I feel like the past 3 years took about 6 months. So if it feels like 6 months and it was really 3 years I must be 2.5 years “behind”. Right? See what I mean?

Life is full of a lot of looking up every year or so and finding yourself somewhere you don’t recognize and thinking, “What happened?” It’s not a bad thing. It’s just how life goes. It’s like your life goes first and you catch up later.

I think, even with all the forward thinking and planning in the world, we all live life slightly behind the curve. We are always processing what just happened. Making sense of the past. You think you are still on the right path, the path you planned. But then you look up, look around, and you are here your actual life is over there. Again, this isn’t a bad thing. You just need to see it and adjust. Catch up with where your life is now. And that requires ditching things that are no longer working and replacing them with new things.

I didn’t fight these grown up things from infiltrating my life on purpose. I suppose I could have been more forward thinking and maybe it should have been more obvious. I could have reacted quicker. But when life is happening so fast it’s not always easy to keep up with all the changes. Perhaps from now on I’ll re-evaluate my life more often and make changes sooner.

Oh, did I mention that Carrie and I both started our own businesses? You want to add more chaos to your life? START A BUSINESS! ha!!! (I mentioned paying taxes right?)

(Further reading on this idea here)


It feels amazing to let go of old things that used to be important. And making space for new things that weren’t important yesterday adds another layer of awesome to life. It’s like a cool breeze of fresh air.

Take away the old, bring in the new!

You can CHOOSE what is and what isn’t important to you today.

Then you can CHOOSE to invest the right amount of time and energy on those things.

Your life will largely reflect these choices. And not just once, but over and over and over. As often as you like or is necessary.

You are the one who chooses what’s important. It’s not as easy as it sounds. Don’t beat yourself up if you suddenly realize you should have made some changes years ago. I’ve heard it said that life gives you the test first and then teaches you the lesson afterwards. I mean, how are you supposed to know about these things until after they happen?

It’s okay to be slightly behind the curve. But once you’ve realized changes need to be made, it’s not okay to not respond. You can try to ignore what you know needs to change but it will only make things harder. (Just ask your health or your money.)

It’s okay to drop things that used to be important and leave them behind forever.

I’ll leave it to you to apply this little lesson to your money or any other area of life.

Here’s a little nudge… What used to be important that isn’t anymore and what is important that used to not be? Can you let go of those old things and focus on something new?

Okay fine, here’s an “example answer”… (Couldn’t help myself!)

Used to be important = Going out 3x a week.

Important now = Budgeting my money.

Good talk.

12 Responses to "How The Beatles Helped Me Find What’s Important In Life"

  1. Ms. Montana   April 20, 2017 at 5:15 pm

    I remember when I thought everyone in thier 30’s was a “real” grown up and knew what the heck they were doing. Now I’m 34. Crap. Still making it up as I go along.

    • Derek   April 21, 2017 at 11:01 am

      I was going to include this in the post, but didn’t.

      I have a memory from Kindergarten.
      I remember very specifically that I figured out that adults were perfect.

      They knew everything (I do mean EVERYTHING).
      They were all super nice to each other (no drama, no issues, everyone liked everyone and everyone was friends with everyone).

      I remember having this thought because of how nice my teacher was to all the other adults who would come visit the classroom. Other teachers, parents, the librarian.

      So I literally thought that’s how life went. You spent a bunch of years in school learning *everything* and then when you were all grown up everything was perfect.


  2. Aja   April 21, 2017 at 11:42 am

    Dang this is so deep. Why would you send me into depression with “Most of my 30s are behind me!” What the heck…ok ok ok….but yet in still you are right. I am taking garlic whole, drinking smoothies and lift weights. I have little people I save food for (sometimes) I guess we’ll figure it out! Wait ….I listen to “HickHop” like HomeGrown Feat. Shawty V And Shotgun Shane plus I’d like to go muddin’ one day am i a hillbilly? Can I post a comment still….ughhhh!!! Why didn’t I read this first!!!

    • Derek   April 22, 2017 at 11:01 am

      I know! I can’t even believe that I’ll be 40 in just over 2 years. WTH!?

  3. Steven Goodwin   April 21, 2017 at 11:45 am

    Wow! So much greened from a few lyrics! Love it!

    It’s amazing how our tastes, priorities, and lifestyles change as we age and experience more and more!

    I hear you completely on the kids growing up way too fast! Always makes me pause from what I’m doing to enjoy them just a little. It more and to soak up the moments that I can!

    • Derek   April 22, 2017 at 11:01 am

      Yeah man, The kids kill me with how fast they grow up.

      All I want is for them to stay small forever.

  4. Elle   April 24, 2017 at 5:34 am

    We’re in the same boat my oldest started kindergarten this year and we were still a bit stunned at how fast things have gone. We’ve now been parents for the majority of our marriage; it’s mind blowing.

    I think for me, I’ve seen a transformation from taking lots of trips and eating out at different spots to dialing back on trips and having friends coming over for a meal. Slower pace that would’ve killed me years ago, but now I truly enjoy it.

  5. Mustard Seed Money   May 4, 2017 at 6:11 pm

    You hooked me with the Beatles lyrics. I honestly had no idea how profound they really were until you made me pause and really think about them. Like you I have to pay attention to some details that I didn’t previous think about, like going to the gym to keep my weight down and eat healthy. I miss the days when I could crush a pizza and a coke and nothing would happen to me 🙂

  6. Mrs. Groovy   May 5, 2017 at 9:37 am

    The lyrics/music to “All You Need is Love” came to mind when I saw your headline. But as we know, love does not conquer all.

    I remember thinking my parents were part of some secret society when they sat down to “balance their check book”. They made it look so complicated. Do others still do that? We do, on an excel spread sheet, not on that little transaction ledger they give you with your checks.

  7. Mrs. BITA   May 6, 2017 at 4:46 pm

    My 20-something year old self would certainly not recognize me now. My nearly-40 year old self eyes looks at my early-30 year old self with fond indulgence. To everything there is a season. So far I have been lucky enough that at nearly every stage of my life I’ve been able to look around and say “Oh boy! Do I ever have it good! This is the best time of my life!” If I can keep that up, I’ll die happy.

  8. Durga   May 18, 2017 at 3:47 am

    Beatles is the band with great lyrics as you explain your experience of going through them. It sounds so good that I wanna try those. Thanks for sharing such great band.

  9. Mr. Robot   August 16, 2017 at 9:11 am

    Such is life, things change and responsibillities grow. But liek you I wouldn’t want it any other way. 🙂 Its great that you realise what is important now instead of regretting the things you thought were important later…


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